When my sponsor and I first read about my self-centeredness, being the root of my problems, he pointed out something I still use when I’m sponsoring others, and to help correct my own attitude. “Look at and read what it says after selfish self-centeredness.”
“Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate.”
Then he said something even more important. “Steve, you didn’t decide to become an alcoholic, it’s not your fault. Now that you’re clean & sober, make a list of your fears and why you have them; share your delusions of grandeur & negative thoughts; write out how & what you’ve chased to try and make you happy; and write down what you’re angry about and share it. Sharing causes, conditions and the truth about yourself will allow a Higher Power of Love to enter your heart.”
It seemed to have worked for him, so I gave it a try. And it still pays dividends with new layers of acceptance, freedom & love.
What seemed at first a flimsy reed, has proved to be the loving and powerful hand of God. A new life has been given us or, if you prefer, ‘a design for living’ that really works.”